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Saturday, May 18, 2013
Middle School is Almost Over - We Made It Through the Wilderness
First Day of Middle School
I'm so lucky. I have a fairly uncomplicated kid.
Now that middle school is finally coming to an end, I realized what we really went through in the last three years. For anyone just starting out: hang in there - what comes out on the other end is totally worth it.
From Home School Back to Public School
When Katie started sixth grade, fresh out of home school, she didn't really have any friends. She bravely sat through first lunch week after week, alone. After awhile it did get to her. She admitted it was hard. Eventually, she finally met a friend and while it wasn't perfect, it was good. Her friend was smart and shared interests and finally there was someone for Katie to hang with at lunch.
Fast-forward to the spring semester of eighth grade and Katie is now on fire. That one friend got her through the winter of this year and then finally, like a curtain raised, all the girls who I would say aren't the "popular ones"; the girls that are more introverted finally found each other. Katie has a "posse"! The kids are good kids and they have all emerged from the middle school dessert as new people. They readily admit they feel different. More ready to take on the world. To hangout and try new things. It's clear Katie's natural leadership qualities has been the fuel to get these kids together, but they also had to be ready. And they are! The big ice-breaker was a girl/boy bonfire at our house. At first they only wanted to plan it for two hours because everyone said they needed to get home. I quietly (ahem, I'm sure I was quiet about it), I quietly jumped in and suggested to Katie that really what was behind this rather crazy time constraint was social anxiety. She admitted I may have had a point. The get together started at 6pm at our house. A few people were late, there was much texting and then the pizzas arrived. I went and hid in my bedroom and let the good times roll. With no effort they found their rhythm and had a great time. As it neared 11pm and I had to tell them it was time to go home and they were so sad! But I was relieved. These kids had no problems. They were awesome (they even left the house clean).
So what I am saying is if you are living the middle school
years, there's hope. Don't freak. The boys are complete idiots in sixth grade
(I was assured by a teacher friend, this is expected) and they are just now
getting it together. It absolutely correlates to testosterone. The
late bloomers are still struggling. The girls are either incredibly socially
competent as they enter sixth grade or they go into a kind of torpor that
they will come out of as the days get longer in eighth grade. At least that's
what I observed.
I'd love to hear your
experiences. It's sad enough to remember our own middle school years - I was
not popular but played consigliere to the popular girls. So much drama. Now it's
our turn to watch. What are you seeing?